Do the Deep Dive Below the Surface.

If there is one thing I could pray for during this time of your life, it is this. Dive deep under the surface with the help of someone else right now to learn more about who you are, and what makes you tick. Learn more about the places that hurt, the places that grieve, the places that are scared. Then start working on making yourself more comfortable in your own skin.

Work on being nice to women. Love them like they are God himself. 

If you feel angry, do not act out. It doesn't become you. Instead, find out what makes you so angry and fix it. Learn to behave differently. You use your anger to intimidate and manipulate others. Stop doing that.

You will not have real friends if that's how you treat them. The woman you love will learn to hate you. Even I cannot stand being around you when you treat me like that. I was a wreck last week in Ft. Worth. I'm only now beginning to calm down and get back to normal. I've cried off and on for two days because I'm aware that my kid can't really stand to be around me. He think he knows more than anyone else, and then he's impatient with them because they're not 'as smart as he is.' Who are you and what have you done to my beautiful, precious, kind little boy?

This is not who you are. Stop being this guy.
Be yourself.

It might be scary to be vulnerable and kind.
It might be uncomfortable to be patient and tolerant.

So what.

Be afraid and uncomfortable.

You won't be for long.  It will be the new normal in no time.

You will like yourself better for it. And so will everyone else.

Take a deep breath...and just do it.